You might think that no-one will believe you when you tell them what's been
happening to you. But when you do find someone who believes you, it can make
such a difference to how you feel. Talking about it can make you feel less
alone, and the person you talk to might help you to work out what you want
to do. You might want to:
- Talk to a friend
- Talk to an adult you can trust (this could be an older sister or brother,
or your parents, a friend's parent, a relative or a school counsellor).
They might have some ideas to help you to feel safer. They might be able
to help protect you from him, or they might be able to talk to him or warn
him about the consequences of his behaviour. They could also phone the services
listed for advice.
- You could talk to someone from a counselling service, either in person
or over the phone. See services.
If the first person you speak to makes you feel bad or doesn't listen to
you or take it seriously, then try to find someone else. You deserve to be
supported for this.
More ideas that might help you to feel stronger:
- Focuson things that you enjoy or feel good at, to build your confidence
- Write your feelings down, keep a journal, or write him a letter
that you don't have to send
- Listen to music that has lyrics that help you to feel stronger
- Pay attention to and trust your feelings and gut instincts
- Believe that you don't deserve to be treated this way
- Believe it's not your fault that he behaves this way
- Be proud of the way you've been able to be strong and of the ways
you have found to keep going when you've felt so much confusion, fear and
hurt.
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