I was in a long term relationship with a male who was older than myself. Things seemed ok in the beginning but the cracks soon showed. His family were not very accepting of me and they made that very clear. He liked the idea that I had a shady past of prostitution and when we got together I stopped at his request.
When the money I had saved up ran out, he suggested that I go back to work for ourselves. I was not happy with the idea but we have one child together and I have have children from a previous relationship.
He was not very accepting of my first child when the second baby arrived. I worked long hours and would have very little time with my children as the mobile would ring constantly with clients wanting my services. My family gave up on me when I started back as they thought he was against this.
Little did they know that he was all for it as it gave him an endless supply of money and a new side to our sex life.
How I coped
I found the situation to make me feel dirty in a new way as he was using the money to go and get himself serviced by ladies, or he was taking me along. As a result I turned to the male clients for love in the form of hugs, which is something that I used to do when I was a teenager and had just started working.
How the situation changed
The situation changed when he broke some rules we had made about sleeping around. I left, which resulted in me losing my children for a month which was very hard.
What helped me to get stronger
My memories of my children helped me to get myself together and the visions of missing out on the different things they would be doing gave me the courage to go on and seek out the right ways to get them back for good. I also found a friend whom has been a great source of listening and help for me.
What I would say to someone who is being abused
If a friend of yours is being pushed into prostitution, don’t turn your back on them – support them in any way you can. Dont ask about the kind of work they are doing but just be there for them.